Sunday, June 30, 2013

Red, White, and a bit of Blue

This "Sunday before July 4th" outfit is less patriotic looking as last year's.
Also, I actually tried doing something with my hair besides just curling/straightening it. I wish I would have had Ryan take better pictures of it.
dress & slip: thrifted, shoes: Kmart, belt: F21 
So Ryan is leaving me all alone on the 4th this year. He's going on a camping trip with the youth in our ward. There was talk of including the girls in the trip, but it was just wishful thinking. I'm bummed because if the Young Women were included, I could go as well! They're leaving for Colorado early Thursday morning and will be back Monday evening. Colorado! I am so jealous. So I'm not too sure what my plans for the 4th will be. I've been alone on the 4th before and I just ended up staying home and watching fireworks in my backyard. It was pathetic. (But the fireworks cheered me up a bit.) It's awkward being married and alone on a holiday. Like, I'd like to hang out with my other married friends, but I'd feel like a 3rd/5th wheel.... And it's kind of a drinking/"party" holiday, so I dunno how I'd feel around that crowd. (Nothing WRONG with my peeps in that crowd, but I'm sure I'd just feel a little awkward. Out of place? You know.) 

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I will be going from over 100 followers to under 60 since Google Reader decided to bite the dust.

I'm not bitter about it, or anything.

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Saturday, June 29, 2013

My Best Friend is Pregnant

Woo! Congratulations to Holly and Ronnie!
It's been hard keeping this a secret!
Check out all of their pictures on my photo site: Sweet Snaps Photography 

Thursday, June 27, 2013

Splendid Jewelry

I shot some jewelry for my friend's business last week. I'd like to thank the lovely Anne for being my model, and also apologize for making her wear clothes that she wouldn't normally wear. Don't worry Anne, you're still bad-@$$. 

Like what you see? Visit Mae's Etsy shop!  
And check out my new photo blog for the rest of the images! Also, lemme know what you think of the new site as well. My friend offered to help me make it and I think she did a swell job :) 

Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Liebster Award Video

I was tagged by Emily to answer some questions about myself! I'm supposed to answer these questions she gave, state 11 facts about myself, and ask 11 questions and tag 11 bloggers to answer them. I was actually awarded the Liebster last summer as well, so here's the link to my 11 facts: An Award? For me?? 

Eleven from Beverly Houpt on Vimeo.
(Also, sorry for the amount of times I say "like" in this video. It's a terrible habit to speak this way.)

I don't think that I'll tag 11 people, but here are a few:
1. Erin of Plus Sized Pretty
2. Maricarr of Velveteen Mint
3. Carley of Little Bird Lee 
5. Alexandra of Into the Woods 
6. And anyone else who wants to participate!!

Here are your questions:
1. Describe your favorite day~
2. Do you have a favorite picture of yourself? Show us!
3. What is a favorite quote of yours?
4. Dogs or cats?
5. Do you like to dance?
6. If you got a tattoo, what would it be of and where would you get it? (Or maybe you already have one?)
7. Do you ever wish you were born in a different era? If so, which one?
8. Find your daily horoscope online, read it, and tell us if it's accurate~
9. Describe your dream job~
10. Do you have any phobias?
11. Name a movie that you can relate to~

I'd highly encourage you to make a video answering the questions, because videos are so fun! But you know, if you fear videos or just can't, then please still answer!

Thursday, June 20, 2013

Modesty, and what other bloggers have to say about it.

This is a blog post that I thought I'd never write. I am really nervous about writing this but also excited to share my thoughts and feelings on the subject of modesty and what it means to me as a Latter-Day Saint (Mormon). It's a novel, so brace yourself. 
 I came across this video on facebook yesterday and found it very interesting. Give it a watch. 
Alright, so people either love this opinion or absolutely hate it. I agree with what Jessica Rey says about dressing modestly, that it isn't about "hiding our bodies" but "revealing our dignity." Now, this doesn't mean that I believe that all women and men who dress "immodestly" have no sense of dignity. The studies/statistics about men in this video make me really sad. I wish that women were not sexualized so much by others, no matter what they're wearing. 
Everyone has their own definition for modesty, and that's what this blog post is about. 
I have read several blog posts about modesty, and I love reading about it, even if I don't agree 100% with all of the opinions. There is a popular slogan amongst LDS teenagers and women, "Modest is Hottest!" I grew up quoting this motto without a second thought. Then, last summer, I read this blog post by Chandra of MoMoMod . The title, "Why I don't think modest is hottest" intrigued me. Chandra is of the Apostolic Pentecostal faith, and I was not familiar with their definition of dressing modestly. I  loved learning about this definition and what she had to say in this post:
"I see what people are trying to do. Let’s make modesty popular! Let’s make it okay for young girls and ladies to think modest clothing is okay! Let’s change the idea that modesty is frumpy! Let’s combine modesty and sexy! You can be both!
  1. Modesty is not popular and it will never be popular. Call me pessimistic but the world is only going to get worse. Here is my biblical proof: Matthew Chapter 24 We live in a world that promotes immodesty. People scoff at the very idea of modesty.
  2. Modest clothing is okay. However, the way I see it personal standards  and convictions regarding modesty must come by way of revelation, prayer, and communication with God. I know there are a few people who dress modestly without any attachment to the Bible, but most people dress modestly out of respect for God. If we want to encourage modesty, encourage Bible reading and prayer.
  3. Dressing modestly doesn’t have to be frumpy; I’m a firm believer in that idea. But why associate modesty with a worldly term? Since we are a chosen generation, I don’t think He called us to be hot. He called us to follow His Word–even when it’s not popular to do so..." 
    If you read Chandra's post, make sure to take a look at the comments too. There are a lot of good points and some debate in there as well. Some people interpret the "hottest" in "modest is hottest" as popular, instead of sexy. Which totally makes sense. But I think the slogan was made up because the two words rhyme :) 
    There seems to be a lot of comments, discussions, and debate about blog posts that focus on modesty, actually. I think that's what I love about these posts; reading everyone's opinions in the comment section. 

    Another blog post that got me thinking about modesty is this one by Elizabeth of Delightfully Tacky. She is one of my favorite bloggers and I agree with this VERY MUCH:  
    "...Emphasizing modesty tends to villainize men. It paints men as sexual beasts who are unable to control themselves if there's cleavage in their immediate vicinity. While I do know that teenage boys are definitely struggling to come to terms with a flood of hormones and overwhelming sexual desire, when we tell them that it's not their problem to overcome- rather it's the woman's problem to cover up- it tells them it's not important to develop the ability to restrain their eyes and thoughts. It also feeds the lie that men are only interested in your body, and tells girls that their most valuable asset is their bodies, despite the fact that dressing modestly is supposed to take the focus off of their bodies, which it certainly can."
    I think that this has become a problem in Mormon culture. I was always told to "cover up, to help the boys not feel so tempted!" I guess I didn't think anything of this either. I now believe that we need to have serious talks with the young men of the church about restraining their thoughts, just as much as we speak with the young women about dressing modestly. If I ever have sons, I will make sure to do this.  
    Also, I love that Elizabeth wrote this:
    "Modesty can create a space where judging immodest girls is okay and paints them all as sluts or sexually promiscuous. It places low value on them automatically because there's no way 'immodest' can be painted in a positive light. It is a negative word by design. Girls who dress modestly can start to acquire a sense of superiority and look down on the 'slutty' immodest girls.  And really, what does that accomplish, other than creating pain, anger, and separation? Does that attitude make the 'immodest' girl want to listen to the opinion of the 'modest' girl and become more modest? I'm going to guess that if you feel judged by another person, you probably want nothing to do with them, much less sit and listed to them talk about how you need to change your ways and be more modest like them. When an environment of judgement is created, relationships are broken and open discussion is almost impossible. When we approach one another with respect and seek understanding, doors are opened."
    I could quote this entire blog post, but I'll spare you! (but seriously though, go check it out.) 

    Of course, I immediately read through the comments of Elizabeth's post and found yet another enlightening blog post that someone linked to. Heather of Women in the Scriptures writes about her time living in Amman, Jordan in this blog post
    "I had several opportunities to talk to two of my Muslim friends, both of whom wore the hijab by choice, about why they wore it and why they dressed so modestly. One friend explained to me that the reason she wore a hijab wasn't because she was expected to or because she thought men couldn't control themselves it was because she knew she possessed sacred power. She covered herself because her beauty was for her husband and she didn't want to misuse her power or to waste it on any man walking by. She also liked it that the veil drew men's attention to her face and not to her body. Another friend explained to me that she wore a hijab because she had made promises with God and that her veil was an outward symbol of her inward commitment to Him." 
    I feel that Mormons have a similar goal in dressing modestly as Muslims do. And like Muslims, Mormons have garments that help them to keep promises they've made with God as well. Unlike Muslims, though, these garments are not meant to be seen. I've had a hard time trying to think of how I'd write about this particular subject, so I am going to rely heavily on quoting the official LDS website as well as a blog post by Alycia of Crowley Party. This post, titled Bikinis and Diet Coke: a Long Post About Mormons, has received over 140 comments! There are many subjects adressed within this post about the strange behavior of us Mormons, including the donning of temple garments:

    "Garments are the basis of where dressing modestly in the Mormon Church comes from. Garments have many purposes to us, they are a reminder of the promises and covenants we make in the Temple. They are also a way for us to remember to keep our bodies modest. We believe they are sacred....
    "Garments are for those who have prepared themselves for the temple, and are living their lives a certain way to be able to attend the temple. Not all members of the Church have gone through the temple, which means a lot of members don't wear garments. Being a member of the Church does not mean you have to be temple worthy, however, it is the goal. Typically you go through the temple before you get married, or you go through before you serve a mission for the Church. 
    "Garments come in different cuts and fabrics etc. to fit what a person likes. They go to just above the knee, and cover the small cap of your shoulders. Those who wear garments should always have them covered by what they are wearing. You are not supposed to 'alter' your garments to suit the needs of what you are wearing. It can be obvious when some people do this, but how you wear your garments etc. is between you, God, and twice a year your bishop when he asks you if you are wearing them appropriately to renew your temple recommend.
    "You will see Mormons who wear them, Mormons who don't, Mormons who don't wear them appropriately - at the end of the day that is just how someone is practicing their religion. Everyone is at a different stage in their faith."
    The church website says this about the temple garment: "The garment provides a constant reminder of the covenants made in the temple. The garment should be treated with respect at all times. It should not be exposed to the view of those who do not understand its significance, and it should not be adjusted to accommodate different styles of clothing. When worn properly, the garment provides protection against temptation and evil. Wearing the garment is an outward expression of an inward commitment to follow the Savior." 

    So. This is the reason you will never see me wear shirts without sleeves or short skirts/shorts, unless I'm engaged in the "3 S's": Swimming, Sports, or Sex (*chuckle*). 

    Hopefully that wasn't too awkward to read, and hopefully I didn't offend those of you that wear the temple garments. 

    If you've spent a decent amount of time in the blogosphere, you may have noticed that there are a ton of Mormon bloggers! Like, why? (I have a few theories on that, but let's save that for another time.) I have found it helpful to connect with other people of my faith through blogging and have found a real sense of community with fellow Mormon bloggers. I think a lot of us like to share our outfits because sometimes it is a challenge to find modest clothing. Shopping is always a challenge, as Bri of The Secret Life of Bee explains: 

    "I love clothes. Creating outfits is a fun form of expression, but I have been asking myself why I want to share them with others. It wasn't until last week when I was wandering between the racks at Forever21 that I realized why I share my outfits. As I picked up what felt like the millionth dress with practically no bottom (seriously ladies, how do you sit down in those? The answer is you can't) I sighed to myself and thought, 'It's almost impossible to find cute, modest clothes these days.' Thus resolving my internal conflict. However small my voice may be, I want to shout hoorahs to modest clothing and show that it is possible! It's possible to feel pretty and to love your outfits with sleeves. It's also possible to buy modest clothing without spending $70 on one item...(I'm lookin' at you Shabby Apple...) If you are reading this and have had similar feelings of helplessness in clothing stores, I hope that you will know you are not alone! You are not the only person frustrated by the limited choices. Let's help each other out and not compromise our standards." (source) 
    Blogging has definitely reinforced the idea that I am not alone in this hunt for modest clothing. I have been able to get lots of fashion advice from fellow bloggers with the same/similar standards. For this, I am so thankful for the internet! What an awesome tool it is. 
    Thanks for reading! It was a lot, but maybe you learned something new! 

Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Self Expression? Narcissism?

Recently, a friend of mine sent a mass text asking several people how they cheer themselves up when feeling down. I didn't have to think long before I answered "Update my blog." When I'm feeling down, it helps to dress up and go out to photograph...myself. See how narcissistic that sounds? But hey, it works. It's a creative outlet that takes more work than you'd think at first: putting an outfit together, setting up my tripod, trial and error with different poses and exposures, editing the photos, and compiling the images and my thoughts into a blog post. I feel that this hobby of mine has also improved my photography skills, which is very important to me! I think that it helps to try out different poses yourself in order to more easily direct your models. You're your best model when it comes to any form of art because you're always with yourself. (Get it?) Why do you think so many artists have multiple self portraits? (Well, maybe they were too poor to hire models (Van Goh), but so am I!) 
Blogs. They're funny things. Who knew I'd end up being a blogger? I would have been too shy a few years ago to be regularly posting photos of myself on the internet, mostly for fear of what others would say if they called me out on it. I mean, it is a little embarrassing sometimes, but I've learned to get over it because blogging has brought so many cool people into my life that I never would have met otherwise! 
(Oops, my pocket is turned inside out^) 
In other news, I've dyed my hair. Can you tell from these photos? It's got a reddish tint now. A couple of my friends and I had a hair dye party last night. My hair is so dark that it's never that noticeable whenever I try hair dye. But it's ok, it actually turned out better than I imagined! 
shirt&skirt: thrifted, belt&shoes: Target, necklace: Splendid 

Monday, June 17, 2013


Just a few photos from that time we hung out in the mountains with friends. 

Friday, June 14, 2013

Friday Friend-zy

What a hot day. 
This is one of the dresses I bought from the flea market in Utah. I love how light the fabric is, making it a suitable dress for summer. As I was putting this outfit together, I noticed that I don't usually wear a lot of accessories. Does that make my fashion blog boring? I don't know. My favorite accessories are necklaces and brooches, since they're very "no fuss." I can't stand to have a bracelet that keeps shifting and sliding up and down my arm, or to have a ring that is just too big, and I kind of forget all about earrings. I do have a few bracelets that I'll wear from time to time, though. Maybe this is why I love painting my nails so often. Painted nails count as an accessory, no? 
Anne and I took a walk around the historic neighborhood in town. So many lovely homes that I wish I could live in. I think an owner (or two) of these houses saw us taking photos... It's a little embarrassing, but they must be used to people taking photos, right?  
Have a good weekend!